Do's and don'ts of selecting roommates

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Do's and don'ts of selecting roommates

Why you should not include current residents in selecting new residents

The harmony of a coliving space largely depends on the compatibility of its residents. An objective selection process is key.

Potential bias and discrimination

  • Unconscious bias: Humans naturally gravitate towards familiarity. Including residents might mean choosing people who reflect their backgrounds and beliefs, inadvertently limiting diversity.
  • Personal preferences: A favorite color, hobby, or even music taste can unintentionally cloud judgment, moving away from objective selection.
  • Risk of discrimination: Decisions influenced by attributes like race, gender, or religion can lead to legal complications and an unhealthy living environment.

Privacy concerns

  • For the applicants: Applicants trust hosts with personal information. Sharing this can breach trust and potentially legal boundaries.
  • For current residents: Residents shouldn't be burdened with the private details of potential residents, ensuring a comfortable living environment.

Emotional stress and tensions

  • Pressure on existing residents: Selection responsibilities might turn enjoyable coliving into a job-like duty, taking away from the communal living experience.
  • Interpersonal conflicts: Different residents may champion different applicants, leading to potential arguments and disputes.
  • Potential for favoritism: An old school friend or a cousin applying can unduly influence decisions, causing imbalance.

Professionalism and expertise

  • Lack of training: Residents, while vital to the coliving community, typically aren't trained in applicant vetting, potentially leading to unsuitable selections.
  • Misunderstanding legal implications: Legal nuances in housing and discrimination can be intricate. Missteps can result in legal actions against the host.
  • Consistency: Hosts or professional managers ensure uniformity in the selection, ensuring everyone gets a fair shot.

Efficiency and streamlining

  • Slower process: More opinions often mean more extended discussions, delaying decisions and possibly losing out on great residents.
  • Potential for indecision: Many voices can sometimes lead to indecision, potentially stalling the entire selection process.

Maintaining a neutral environment

  • Avoiding preconceived notions: If residents are part of the selection, they might create narratives about the new resident even before they've moved in, influencing first interactions.
  • Ensuring a fresh start: Every resident deserves to begin their coliving experience on a clean slate, without pre-established biases or stories.


  • Feedback loop: Encourage residents to communicate their preferences for a roommate without directly influencing the decision. This strikes a balance between inclusion and objectivity.
  • Update marketing material: Make sure your marketing is directed toward your perfect target audience. Make them understand if they fit your coliving community.
  • Integration activities: Ice-breaking sessions or community events can be excellent mediums for connecting old and potential residents.
  • Clear communication: Timely updates about new residents or selection procedures ensure residents feel involved without directly influencing decisions.

A cohesive and harmonious coliving environment arises from fairness, objectivity, and a systematic approach in the selection process. Balancing resident involvement with professionalism is key. connects you with the ideal residents without any additional marketing expenses.

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